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Three Steps to Empowering Positive Self Talk

Loving Self TalkDon Miguel Ruiz, in his book,The Four Agreements, starts with “Be impeccable with your word.” He says that not only do your words have the power to create something outside, but also inside. Our words can build or tear apart. According to Carolyn Myss,“Dis-empowering language keeps us sick and weak.” Negative self-talk messages such as “I can’t do it,” “ It won’t work,” or “ I’m not good enough,” often speak to material from long ago, and do not allow the “true self” to shine.

Here are three steps to empower your self-talk:

1. Working with the energy center for hearing and speech, the Ether Chakra (throat) allows for feeling and serves as the bridge between the Air (heart and lungs) and Brow Chakra (pineal gland) creating the opportunity for expression from both the heart and mind. To access these three centers, notice with loving awareness how your communication feels. Become aware of your breath and focus in your heart before speaking. This then expands the electromagnetic fields of the heart and brain for more clarity, problem-solving, connection to love, courage, compassion and intuition. This results in creating greater opportunity for the harvest of response over reaction in your expression.
2. Clarity, truth and respectful wording create greater empowerment. To experiment with this idea, read paired sentences with small changes, noting how you feel as you read both.

Indecision to Clarity
“Maybe, I’ll call you to tomorrow.” /“I’ll call you tomorrow.”
“Yeah, I think that song is great.” / “ Yes, that song is great.”
“Nah, I don’t think it’s a wise decision.” / “No, it’s not a wise decision”
Extreme to Moderate
“I never eat after 5 PM.” / “ I seldom eat after 5 PM.”
“I always meditate for an hour.” / “I often meditate for an hour,” or “I sometimes meditate for an hour.”
Should to Choice“ I should call my mother on Sunday.”/ “I choose to call my mother on Sunday,” or “I want to call my mother on Sunday.”
Try to Aim
“I will try to do my best on my homework.” / “ I aim to do my best on my homework” or “I intend to do my best on my homework.”
Diminishment to Value
“ I’m just a student.” / “ I am a student.”
“ I can’t exercise for 30 minutes.” / “I choose not to exercise for thirty minutes.”
or “I am not willing to exercise for thirty minutes.”
Demand to Desire
“I have to lose 5 lbs. by August 30th.” /“I desire to lose 5 lbs. by August 30th.”or “ I choose to lose 5 lbs. by August 30th.”
“I need to finish this work by tomorrow.” / “It’s important to me to finish this work by tomorrow.”

3. Extend this practice by keeping track of repeated messages you give yourself and then working with a change from the list above. Using a journal, write down a statement you hear yourself saying which feels uncomfortable. Use the same practice of tuning into your heart and breath as you reflect on its meaning. Listen to your words to inform and empower your life for illumination. Who, what and where on the time-space continuum is speaking? I’ve worked with clients who have expressed beliefs, attitudes and hardships of their ancestor’s traumas and limitations. Sometimes messages are parental messages from pre-natal experience or very early on. Through the course of a session, when the client consciously becomes aware and transforms the old messages, a great burden is lifted! Create a new message by taking it more deeply into a Resonance Repatterning session for internal shifts. By taking this active part, you create respectful, loving and supportive action from within for life affirming communication.


About Kimberly Rex, Certified Resonance Repatterning and Life Coaching Practitoner

Kimberly is a Certified Master Life Coach, Resonance/Holographic Repatterning Practitioner and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist who helps you achieve your life goals by phone, Skype, in-person or proxy. Find out more about Resonance Repatterning and Repatterning Your Life Coaching packages in her FREE monthly newsletter with exclusive articles on conciousness science, monthly healing modalities and exclusive session offerings at


2 thoughts on “Three Steps to Empowering Positive Self Talk

  1. Thank you for stopping by. Great comment! Having a process to work with from the intelligent field of action creates a way to start observing our day-to-day patterns. This can bring about some interesting awareness.
    While old beliefs, attitudes and imprints need support for shifting at the core levels, the first step is always awareness. Resonance Repatterning sessioins make those shifts possible through working specifically and directly with material stored in your bio-energetic field at the unconscious level on the emotional, mental, spirit and physical levels. And, any place on the time-space continuum! Unconscious material is stored in the body. The nervous system is connected to every muscle, tissue, organ and gland. We don’t have to think about digesting, blinking, breathing. Resonance Repatterning works with applied kinesiology to access this information, and shifts material at the unconscious level for releasing old material that blocks or interferes with your positive intentions for life. These articles are meant to be windows to stimulate deeper awareness and positive change.
    Warm Blessings,

    Posted by kimberlyrex | August 9, 2009, 12:03 pm
  2. This is a wonderful talk from Marshall Rosenberg focusing on “What We Tell Ourselves When We Make Mistakes: Great Insight~:

    Posted by Kimberly Rex, Certified Resonance Repatterning and Life Coaching Practitoner | November 30, 2014, 10:41 am

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